Update:
ENGLAND WEDDING
Sat 14th July 2012
Plymouth
ARGENTINA WEDDING
Sat 21st July 2012
Buenos Aires.
You are all welcome to join either or both.
We are very much looking forward to celebrating with you!
xx
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Wedding Thoughts
This is not one of my usual 'What Have I been doing' posts...
In exactly 4 months today I will be celebrating our first wedding. This is something that fills me with joy but does have its down sides...the wedding planning. Planning our two weddings has been pretty stress free until a couple of weeks ago when our reception venue cancelled, and then our second choice also cancelled. I wish it could be easy, I want it to be easy.
A friend of mine had been to three different weddings in recent weeks so I asked her 'What did you like most about each one?' (secretly thinking, hmmm, time to steal ideas), she told me how one of the weddings was beautiful because the couple were so in love and were obviously crazy about each other however, in comparison, the bride in one of the other weddings showed her nerviousness and stress at the details of the wedding so much that it made the day a little uncomfortable.
This made me think...
weddings have become about money. weddings have become so much about what they look like, nice hotel, country house, cars, flowers. Everyone wants something different but yet different becomes the same...photo booths, balloons, jumping photos, fingerprint guest books etc...yet for the first couples to use these ideas they were super creative and unusual. What can I do at my wedding so it isn't just another wedding? hang on, why do I care if it is just like any other wedding...it is not really about how much other people enjoy the day, if they like the food, if they think my dress is lovely etc because ultimately will they not notice more about the couple, about us...not the decorations?
I am not going to lie, I know that I am not going to give up looking for a dress, or not organise a cute guestbook, or not make the church look cutsie or cut my guest list to ten but I am going to try to lay aside the desire to be different, the desire to please everyone, the desire to spend more than we have...I want all the people that I love to be there, I want them to eat, drink and be happy. I want to enjoy the day...or two.
Moan over.
In exactly 4 months today I will be celebrating our first wedding. This is something that fills me with joy but does have its down sides...the wedding planning. Planning our two weddings has been pretty stress free until a couple of weeks ago when our reception venue cancelled, and then our second choice also cancelled. I wish it could be easy, I want it to be easy.
A friend of mine had been to three different weddings in recent weeks so I asked her 'What did you like most about each one?' (secretly thinking, hmmm, time to steal ideas), she told me how one of the weddings was beautiful because the couple were so in love and were obviously crazy about each other however, in comparison, the bride in one of the other weddings showed her nerviousness and stress at the details of the wedding so much that it made the day a little uncomfortable.
This made me think...
weddings have become about money. weddings have become so much about what they look like, nice hotel, country house, cars, flowers. Everyone wants something different but yet different becomes the same...photo booths, balloons, jumping photos, fingerprint guest books etc...yet for the first couples to use these ideas they were super creative and unusual. What can I do at my wedding so it isn't just another wedding? hang on, why do I care if it is just like any other wedding...it is not really about how much other people enjoy the day, if they like the food, if they think my dress is lovely etc because ultimately will they not notice more about the couple, about us...not the decorations?
I am not going to lie, I know that I am not going to give up looking for a dress, or not organise a cute guestbook, or not make the church look cutsie or cut my guest list to ten but I am going to try to lay aside the desire to be different, the desire to please everyone, the desire to spend more than we have...I want all the people that I love to be there, I want them to eat, drink and be happy. I want to enjoy the day...or two.
Moan over.
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